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Tip 8
Kids who treat you ‘invisible’ regardless of umpteen times telling them to finish their homework, clear their rooms, eat their meals, and the list goes on… Instead of screaming your lungs out and, for some, expanse unnecessary energy chasing them with the cane, feather duster (hangers and belts not recommended), simply stay put and use the ‘NO’.
DEPRIVE them. Do not want to do your homework, ‘NO Shrek movie’. Take your time to finish your meal, ‘NO computer games tonight’. Not packing your room ‘NO Winx Club this weekend’. You’d be surprise how little an effort is needed to make darn little critters do their bit!
The trick is of course, before the deprivation kicks in, you got to know what makes them tick. And to make them work, MEAN WHAT YOU SAY. If you have given them the ultimatum, NEVER back track.
We’ve got an incident where our little one did not keep her part of the bargain. We passed her her favourite SPD (Power Rangers Space Petrol Delta) vcd, that she clamoured for weeks, and she got to dumb it into the rubbish chute – herself. It was painful to see her crying and not wanting to let go her favourite vcd (and we paid $6 for that vcd!?!), but we both knew that the value she’ll learn from this experience, of honouring ones word, is more than what we had paid for!
From here on, they will know, you mean business and it has been easy to get things move along with just this ‘No’ technique. On hindsight, SmackDad wished he had just given his little one the cover to throw, and kept the actual vcd. Shucks.
Rule of the Day: Children should be seen and NOT heard in public.
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Monday 25 June 2007
Tip 8: The Beauty of 'NO'
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4 comments:
Hey SmackDad! I just got to know about your blog from wiwimu :) I must say i love your posts! The rules of the day are great tips for mother-to-be like me. I'll make sure to come back for more insights in kid-smacking! Haha.. Take care!
hi Prima, thanks for the wonderful compliment and glad that it is useful. It is with such encouragement that makes writing these experiences worthwhile ;-)
Having two boys myself, (one 2 and one 2 months), I must say your site is like heaven sent. Especially the bone-grind grip when crossing the road. I know I will use it one day, cos my 1st boy is the type who would take off at the first opportunity, and doesn't understand the meaning of "no!".
Here's a question for you, how do you deal with biters? I don't want to bite in return, cos it seems to send the message of it's ok to bite...
hi WMD, glad u find the tips useful. By golly, i would love to bite back, just to let them taste their own medicine. But that is me.
I'll go for Tip 2, found in the month of May. That little red chilli padi can do wonders! u wanna bite again? Try this! ouch. btw, it's also effective for kids who can't stop lying ;-) Remember to apply the remedy after they have learned their lesson. Happy reading.
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