Tip 16: Dear Pampering Mothers…

In today’s world of instant gratification (for the precious little brats), they must know – nothing comes free. The sooner they accept this life lesson, the better.

We have adopted a reward system where, if the kid wants something, they got to work for it. Be it packing the room or improving on a subject’s grade. Reason being – whatever they have earned, and gained through their own effort, they will treasure it more. Welcome to the real world I’d say!

Mummies however, have the knack of throwing that to the winds.

It started over dinner with a wonderful friend of ours, Aunty K, and her two lovely daughters, our girl’s bestest friend. Having a ball of her time, our little one poured loads of sugar on her roti prata for dinner. Mummy agrees that it was alright. I can live with that.

Then pleasing the kids further, off they went for this sand painting activity. One piece of this craft work, no bigger than A5 size, is at S$6.50. Hey, I can have two decent plates of chicken rice meal with change to spare! An hour went by… while mummies patiently sit through the sand painting activity with their daughters – you can leave SmackDad out of this money wasting activity.

To top it all, Aunty K went to the slot machine and bought mini rows of Mentos sweet for each three girls. This is where it all started to slide.

Instead of showing appreciation, here you have this blasted whiny kid, whining throughout our entire train ride home, on why she can’t have a go at the slot machine. And there was mummy patiently hearing her out (amidst the din of her whining and tears) and trying to reason with the little brat!

When we alighted from the train, I’ve said this quietly to SmackMum and my brat ‘If she grows up to be the devil that is demanding and unreasonable, I will kill her first. Note the word I used, kill’. That shut her up.

SmackMum was appalled such harsh words were used (And I appreciate she did not protest in front of the child). Taken out of context, it seemed I am threatening to kill my precious little one. Are you mad!?! Look at what I carefully said. I will kill the devil that is demanding and unreasonable, in other words, the kid’s behaviour!

It is a no brainer to handle such tantrums from a kid – with the many creative ways I have described in my earlier post – but to go up against the kid’s mother, who defends the pesky kid whining, is another matter all together. And with SmackMum, you wouldn’t want to cross that border.

Given that ‘A man knows no fear till he met a woman’s scorn’, SmackDad take on man's equivalent, ‘Make a man angry, he kills first and then regrets later’. Stupid but true. Call it caveman mentality if you'd like.

Any how, the night ended with mummy allowing our little one two more Mentos sweets! Grrrrrrrrr. SmackMum, if our little one do grow up to be one unreasonable, demanding brat…

Rule of the Day: Never ask the kid what they want for dinner, unless they are paying for it.

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